I have invited all of you to this site for a reason. We all have thoughts and opinions about what goes on around us. It might be the President, the economy, bad drivers, or any of a million other things. But the one thing we all have in common is our ability to think for ourselves and the love to express what we believe to be right.
I am hoping to put something worthy of myself on this post once or twice a week. I hope that you enjoy and I hope that we all can grow out of this experience.
Thanks,
Rob
Hey man, I just wanted to be the first to congratulate you on the new addition to your family it is going to be an exciting time full of fears and happieness. I read the email and for those who read this I have a long history with this man and I can say he is a good man!!! And I do believe you have the heart of a father. However I will say this from my own experience Becoming a father is just that it is something you become it isn't easy. It's fun though. To give you some background on me I am 34 and have two children 1 son 23 months, and a daughter 3 months. So I think I may be able to lend a little about the first few years of being a new dad. To start off I am a bit arrogant as all who know me would attest to. Honestly i was so arragant as to think I could do everything my wife could do!! WEll let me tell you that didn't happen like I thought it would. Women just have this thing and I tell you its powerful and its a different bond than men have with there kids no better no worse just God given and special. So needless to say; I think you will learn more about yourself in the first 9 months of pregnancy as a father to be. and in the first few months and years as a dad than you do about Kids( honestly I think this is a life long process for us as dads. First funny as it may be your wife will probably test your patients and your ability to put up with emotions becasue she will have them and they will come out in many different ways. So the first thing you learn is how to deal with emotions of someone that has a hard time controling them. Guy, pass this test step up and love her through this its more about your growth in comapassion and patients than it is about her emotions. Becasue let me tell you this is just a little sample of how emotional your house will be in good and trying ways. AS far as being the DAD its different than you think we all had or have dads that have there own issues so I think you shouldn't worry so much about there short falls but focus Loving that child. Love may mean sitting up all night when they cry for no reason. Or paying when your to tired to play or even popping his bottom or habd when he can't understan words but yu need to keep him safe. I can say this Kids do want their moms most times guys but I spent alot of time as well up all night holding my son when momma was exhausted and needed a break. And what I have seen in my son is that where yes he needs his mom there are times when he needs that security only a father can offer, so he climbs up in my arms and lap sometimes as well. Always remember being a father is more about knowing your heavanly father. Jesus mad eknow mistakes try and seek and learn how he handled people. The first thing you should see is that he let the little children climb up into his lap no matter the circumstance or situation and he spent time with them and taught them. So as a new dad I beleive your first order of business is to model Jesus in how you accept and love them I have much more to say but have to go for now God bless Talk you you soon-T
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